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Eid Mubarak!

May Almighty Allah accept our ibaadah, our fasts, our tears and our du’a and may He forgive our errors and sins, intentional and unintentional. Ameen Ya Rabb.

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Eid Mubarak

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As I conclude this holy month,
I reaffirm to myself that while
tomorrow may not be Ramadan,
it’s still as holy as I choose to make it.
Beginning anew, with stronger faith, deeper connection with ALLAH, and with greater accountability for every single deed of mine,
I commit to a tomorrow where I
Think good thoughts,
Speak good words,
Do good deeds.
Ameen Ya Rabb

EID MUBARAK 🕋🌙

May Almighty Allah accept our fasts, good intentions and good deeds. May HE grant us compassion to be kind to ourselves and ALL of HIS creation. May HE keep us steadfast on the path of righteousness, kindness and peace. Ameen Ya Rabb 💚💚💚

Your sister in Islam,
Princess R. Lakshman

#Eidmubarak2020

Replacing Regret With Gratitude

written by Princess R. Lakshman

The Reality Of Regret

To regret is to wish that you had something other than what you have now. It is to spend the present moment wishing it was different. It is human nature to dwell on thoughts that start with ‘What-if’ or ‘I wish I had’. 

Regrets can quickly turn into a default setting in the mind if you are not aware of your present moment. Your moment right now is your moment to design your life in a way that will serve your purpose. Moments spent in regret do not serve your purpose – they hold you back and before you know it, a vicious cycle of regrets becomes your default setting. You lose sight of your present moment and forget to appreciate the beauty and serenity of surrendering to ALLAH’s plans for you.

Let us transform ourselves right this moment and cultivate a mindset which replaces regret with absolute gratitude.

How To Replace Regret With Gratitude

  1. Praise ALMIGHTY ALLAH for all that HE has already given you. Write down a list of everything you are blessed with.
  2. Now, Praise ALMIGHTY ALLAH for all the lessons you have learnt from past experiences, negative and positive.
  3. Replace all what-if statements with “Alhumdolillah”.
  4. Avoid comparing your life with someone else’s. Your unique abilities and experiences make you different from the rest of the world. Focus on your soulful connection with ALLAH. Increase your own ibaadah and good deeds. Don’t worry about who is saying what and who is doing what. Focus on your deeds, your thoughts, your words.
  5. Daily positive affirmations. Consciously choose positive words when talking about your situation. The more you affirm your life positively, the more positive outcomes arise from situations. Refer to the examples below:
Situation Negative Self -Talk Positive Affirmation
Money I don’t have enough money yet. Thank you, ALLAH, for providing me with exactly what I need precisely when I need it. Ya ALLAH, you are the only source of rizq and you know what I need and when I need it. I am so grateful for this daily abundance of rizq.
Marriage It’s not going well. Thank you, ALLAH, for my realisation that there are things that I need to reflect upon in my thoughts, words and deeds that contribute to my marriage. I am grateful for the daily realisation that I need to be accountable and responsible for my own thoughts, words and deeds and be responsible for my own choices.
Disobedient children What more can I do? They are so ungrateful. Thank you, ALLAH, for making my children healthy and joyful and keeping them on the straight path. I am grateful that you help me every day to be a good role model for my children.
Job I hate my job. Thank you, ALLAH, for the realisation that my heart is not aligned with my work. I am grateful for the opportunity to learn and reflect upon exactly what my heart finds joyful. I place my trust in you that you are guiding me to that. Ya ALLAH, help me to be of service to others in all that I do in my work so that I may please you.
Body Image I don’t like my body. Thank you, ALLAH, for my healthy body which unconditionally breathes for me and allows me to accomplish righteous deeds that may please you.

Someone wise once said, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” 

Always remember, you are not your experiences. You are the FORCE that overcomes them.

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How to Overcome Insecurity

written by Princess R. Lakshman

Do you ever feel anxious, little or no confidence, or unsafe in your circumstances? Do you feel the need to depend on others for things or approval? Do you feel self-pity or that you need to prove your worth to others? If so, you could be feeling insecure.

Insecurity creates self-doubt and fear and cripples you from living a joyful, productive life. When you feel insecure, you resist total submission to ALLAH swt. You begin to believe in shaytan’s whispers that you are “not good enough” or that you “don’t have what it takes” or that you are a “fraud”. These negative whisperings not only create massive blocks in every aspect of your life, such as, relationships, finances, spirituality, to name a few, but also affect your mental health and holistic wellbeing.

For thirty-seven years of my life, I was a slave to shaytan’s whispers about my own insecurities. It had crippled me to the point where I would create situations to prove my worth. The saddest part about those years was that I was not a Muslim and I did not know how to handle feelings of fear, rejection, self-loathing, self-pity and self-doubt.

Insecurity stems from emotional hurt or pain that has not been healed. Instead of processing hurt and emotional pain, we tend to put on a brave face and slap on a big, padded band-aid over them. We become fearful of our own vulnerabilities by moving on with life carrying a load of unprocessed emotions. 

The way to process emotional hurt and pain is to identify what happened when it happened and who was involved. You may need professional help from a therapist to successfully identify these suppressed, or sometimes blocked, memories. Once you have identified them, you are then on the road to overcoming feelings of insecurity that are as a result of these memories.

Journaling or Writing Therapy is a great way to not only identify memories of hurt and pain but also process them and experience catharsis. Contact me if you wish to find out more about this therapy.

Strategies to Overcome Insecurity

Below are six typical situations which may cause feelings of insecurity. Try to practise corresponding affirmations to become aware of your insecurities and therefore overcome them.

Situation Affirmation
When people compliment others in front of me I am unique. ALLAH has blessed every creation with their own unique abilities. I am enough because I am ALLAH’s creation.
When I struggle financially ALLAH is Ar-Razak. Only ALLAH provides my sustenance. Everything I need, ALLAH provides immediately.
When I struggle with my body image ALLAH has blessed me with optimum health. I am a soulful being dwelling temporarily in this body. Every salah I pray, my body re-energises with faith and wellbeing. I am a beautiful creation of ALLAH.
When I feel I do not deserve compliments or monetary rewards for my efforts I am worthy of rewards. I work hard and ALLAH knows my efforts. HE rewards me for my efforts. I accept wholeheartedly whatever HE has ordained for me to receive as payment for my services.
When I feel I don’t have as much as my other friends or family members ALLAH provides me with comfort and ease. I accept wholeheartedly and gratefully all that ALLAH provides for me and my family. I embrace ALLAH’s abundant blessings in my life.
When I feel I lack skills or aptitude I have a mind with unlimited potential. ALLAH gives me knowledge, intelligence, reason and creativity. ALLAH helps me in every task I perform that is good for me and my deen.

Always remember, you are not your experiences. You are the FORCE that overcomes them.

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